Hmmm...
(Monday, November 2, 2009/1:21 AM)
Sigh... It has come to my attention that my comments on my blog and emails don't sit well with a few people. At least I've learnt something new - I can't expect people to heed my advice if my relationship with them aren't close enough. Possibly the only person who is open for me to speak into his life is KC, my newfound brudder on FB who is my best friend of 15 years and running. I shall work on building these relationships better before speaking into these people's lives once more...
I've been accused of being cowardly, but aren't the true cowards the ones who know the presence of a problem and choose to casually ignore it, in order to maintain status quo? True, it seems that I'm having an easy time talking jack on my blog. And I choose not to mention names cos' as I've said, my relationships with other people aren't as strong as with KC, but it's not that I'm cowardly and try to beat around the bush.
If anybody is willing to listen to my counsel, do let me know and I promise you I won't hold back. I had received an angry email just a few weeks ago regarding my comments and the person questioned my intentions. But if such people think through carefully, why would I be so boliao to attract unnecessary flak, when I could have been just another typical nice Christian who stays low-profile and live life peacefully? Am I really so kaypoh, or am I itching to get into some trouble for nothing?
I made it clear from the start when I first made this blog. I'm not gonna be just another feel-good blog, typing about "my sumptuous McGriddles breakfast I have with my girlfriend" and other superficial stuff about myself. My life is pretty boring, so how do I wish to compare with other more 'interesting' blogs? Just a small dose of cleavage from a bimbotic busty model earns a thousand times more hits than my blog.
But of cos' that's not the point of me typing on this blog. Since I have a regular readership among some of my friends, why not I post something that might help them along in life? But of cos' I won't be targeting anyone in particular but also broaden my stance so that random people who stumble upon my blog can benefit can well. That's how I got to know Jonathan Lexington Tan who appreciated my thought life. So, I hope from now on, no one takes what I say personally.
The sin of omission is far more serious than the sin of commission. At least sins of commission are tangible problems we know we can work on. What's so dangerous about sin of omission is that you might not even perceive it as a problem! But when it gets out of hand, it might be irreparable. Pastor Kong frequently preached "When you meet God in Heaven, He's not gonna ask you how many millions you made, what a good family man you are. He's gonna question you "why did you not reach out to that friend?", "why did you not prevent that conflict?"."
Similarly to what Zoe has preached in CGM before, are we gonna build our relationships on superficial fun and laughter, or even the obligatory consolation when our friends need emotional support? No, at the expense of straining friendships, I'm gonna keep doing what I think is right. As I stay accountable to God, I pray He would protect these friendships.
But if I have sleepless nights cos' I'm burdened with your problems, trying my best to speak into your life through my blog and emails, you should be glad instead cos' this is a privilege which I give exclusively to friends who matter to me. I can't even be bothered with hi-bye acquaintances or superficial friends. They can wallow in self-pity for all I care. =P
On a positive note, I thank God for strengthening my relationships in the CG further. Previously, Elicia and I had a 'non-existent' friendship (a term which Valerie used for our prior friendship lol =P) but after fellowship through this week's CG and service, I feel there's a greater tangiblity to our friendship. =) Adeline too... Kinda lost 'connection' with her since late '07 but recently, we can resume chatting comfortably again. And for a previously shy guy who felt awkward around females, I met Vannessa, Wendy and Pei En for dinner before CGM. Haha, it was great fellowshipping with you girls! =D
Yet another long and boring post... And I hope no one takes offence in whatever I said in this post too... I don't like to impose my views on other people. If you feel something after reading this post, that means my message ministers to you but I reiterate that I'm not targeting specific individuals. It's entirely up to you to think through what I've said or treat it as trash. I just hope to help people who are open to different perspectives. =)
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