The intricacies of love - NUS edition
(Tuesday, July 15, 2008/11:36 PM)
Alright, coming up with another 'unconventional' post, Janet! (Ok, this seriously has to stop somewhere =P) School's starting real soon, and recently when Kristal told me some stories about how her girlfriends are pestered by guys in school, I've been thinking about some funny aspects of the social culture in NUS. In fact, we both have a few mutual friends in NUS who are pretty good-looking and have charming personalities as well. And they never fail to entertain us with their amusing stories of hopeful but dawgy guys who tried their luck chasing them *lol*!
Why is it that alot of guys in universities are so desperate for a girlfriend? Sometimes, I wonder if they go to school each and every day to study, or they're mistaking the initials of NUS for SDU? There's this guy who's wooing my friend, and the amazing thing is that, he confessed to her and asked her out for a date after just their first meeting! How can anyone be so irresponsible and barge into someone's life when he can't guarantee that they'll be blissful together? Esp. not after the first meeting cos' he wouldn't know 99% of her life!
I shan't deny that the motivation for me to wake up early each morning and drag myself to school would be the chance to see bevies of beauties (tho' I've been disappointed on many occasions, esp. in Computing faculty *opsss!*) but I know when and where to draw the line. This juz isn't the time to look for a girlfriend. Maybe when I settled down and get a respectable CAP by Year 3? =) But I'll be sure not to be shallow as those guys who chased my friends, blinded by their lustful infatuations, rather than letting nature and time take their course for them to progress as friends normally.
Group projects seem to be the perfect situation for guys to hand-pick their next 'target' if they happen to get lucky and pretty girls accept them into their groups. I've already heard countless stories of guys trying to hit on my friends whilst in the midst of their projects. And I'll admit as well, that I bear a glimmer of hope each time I have to join a project group, there'll be babes, and with great personality to boot! But I'll always stop short of taking the next step cos' the short time spent doing the project together is seriously insufficient for me to know the person well enough. Thus, it really amazes me how guys can hit on their project group mates. They probably want a quick fling and don't have any long-term plans to stay together with them. =S
Loving someone wholeheartedly takes time to nurture, takes mutual understanding and forgiveness for each other's shortcomings and character flaws. Why even bother delving deep into a relationship if u know it'll be over one fine day? Is it worth the tears and heartbreak for that single moment of folly? It might sound cliched, but I'm hoping my first girlfriend would be my last as well. Alot of my friends are surprised I've not have any girlfriend before, but I tell them each and every time, that I do not see a need to, if I feel that the right girl hasn't come along.
Love at first sight? Don't make me laugh! I don't believe in that crap. =D Lust or infatuation, maybe yes. Love relationships in schools seem to be a game played only by good-looking people, even at a tertiary level in NUS where maturing young adults such as us SHOULD understand that love isn't just about the face. Sour grapes? Maybe. Disgusted by the shallowness? Absolutely.
I've many juniors in NS right now who'll matriculate next year. So, if u guys are reading this, just a word of advice to concentrate on ur studies, at least for the first year. Absolutely crucial to set ur CAP (or GPA in NTU) on a good platform within the first year. Love can wait, unless u're dead sure the woman of ur life is already waiting for u! =)
There's still plenty of intriguing issues in NUS. That'll fuel the ideas for my upcoming blog posts!
OH YEAH! If those guys whom I've subtly mentioned in my post, for some reason, happen to read my blog post, STOP HARASSING MY FRIENDS! =D
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